tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post1110143258704624102..comments2023-10-21T02:41:00.021-06:00Comments on Aunie Sauce: Insecurities.Auniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08116851304061674812noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-84441399729896883812014-01-03T15:03:05.981-07:002014-01-03T15:03:05.981-07:00I'm working so hard on it, Gayle. After writin...I'm working so hard on it, Gayle. After writing this post, it was like a huge load was lifted off my chest. It was so helpful to read all the nice and uplifting comments. Thank you so much!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-2221214813367828362014-01-03T10:10:42.174-07:002014-01-03T10:10:42.174-07:00But God, while we were still sinners, sent His onl...But God, while we were still sinners, sent His only begotten Son to die upon the cross, to give us freedom we didn't earn, or deserve. Give yourself grace, Annelise -- guilt does not come from God. Give these thoughts to Jesus, and let Him hold them captive for you.gaylehttp://www.graceforgayle.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-71933026093855419852013-12-30T15:53:15.542-07:002013-12-30T15:53:15.542-07:00It's the biggest reward to strike those insecu...It's the biggest reward to strike those insecurities down. We can do it!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-34202480807580495222013-12-30T10:13:40.960-07:002013-12-30T10:13:40.960-07:00I know those kind of insecurities way to well. I h...I know those kind of insecurities way to well. I hate it and fight against it almost every day. Sometimes i win, but often they are winning too...Julie Wnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-44756819961110525332013-12-11T16:44:49.538-07:002013-12-11T16:44:49.538-07:00You're so awesome. I love that candle analogy....You're so awesome. I love that candle analogy. It's the light I need to soak in and look to, not the surrounding darkness. I try to be as open about my fears as possible, but sometimes I don't want Daniel to know that I do feel insecure about it... I feel bad. Because it's like admitting my distrust. But I'm getting better about it and we are working on it together. The biggest part is being open with each other, which we have come to be so good at.<br /><br />Thank you for all your support. I'm so excited for you and your new life... and the TRUST you have. It's beautiful!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-61983718831851460242013-12-11T10:48:58.999-07:002013-12-11T10:48:58.999-07:00As I can see from the below comments, you are note...As I can see from the below comments, you are note alone.... Heck, WE are not alone.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />I know that my doubt, fears, and "lies I tell myself" come from past issues... <br /><br /><br /><br />My fiance (*giggles* I get to call him that now), has never given me any reason to mistrust him.. but there are times where the old evils seep in, and I doubt him... His commitment, his monogamy... I dream up things that happen when we are not together... It's hard, and the fears become very real... They can over power our judgement... The lies, well, they lie so well that we start to believe them.<br /><br /><br />And then we get angry. Angry over nothing, angry at ourselves, angry at our spouses. Because the lies speak to the BLAME.. and blame loves to GET passed around. You know what I mean?<br /><br /><br />Then we get quiet, and we hide... because we are not only angry now, but EMBARRASSED.... <br /><br /><br /><br />I have found.. that the quiet is what makes it worse for me. That if I allow the lies to trick me into believing them and then I internalize... shut down.. that it gets worse. <br /><br /><br /><br />Somehow, I believe God steps in and lights a candle... Showing us where we need to go... Away from the darkness. When these moments happen, I usually spill over with emotion.. and lay it all down for Klay.<br /><br /><br />I tell him everything.. I tell him how I know it isn't true... I tell him how IRRATIONAL it is.. and then, normally, I cry. He holds me, he assures me and he doesn't judge me. That brings me the rest of the way out of the darkness (with this respect).<br /><br /><br />Life is a journey, filled with my bumps.... What is most important about the dark points, is how we REACT from them... how we BOUNCE BACK from them... making the next moment... of darkness.. LESS LIKELY. <br /><br /><br /><br />I'll keep you in my prayers, and thoughts... sending you (and Daniel) good energy.Kateri Von Stealnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-67524452959996325482013-12-11T07:29:03.620-07:002013-12-11T07:29:03.620-07:00Thank you so much for your sweet note, Aunie! I fe...Thank you so much for your sweet note, Aunie! I feel like I've been in similar situations, and I agree that sometimes it's best to trust from the beginning, and give people a chance! Love you for this! xoNiki Caronhttp://www.glossyblonde.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-48834538581602291632013-12-10T09:48:00.124-07:002013-12-10T09:48:00.124-07:00I'm right there with you, Brittany. Sometimes ...I'm right there with you, Brittany. Sometimes I find myself wondering what my husband is doing at home while I'm at work (he has every other Monday off), and I create these horrible twisted scenarios in my head of things that aren't even remotely real. And then I embellish them and stew on them, and by the time he picks me up, I'm a suspicious wreck. IT's terrible! Let's both make a conscious effort to keep our thoughts positive and trusting. We can do it, I know it!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-46757858885806631712013-12-10T09:44:58.330-07:002013-12-10T09:44:58.330-07:00Thank you, Niki! You know, growing up, I didn'...Thank you, Niki! You know, growing up, I didn't have a lot of girlfriends. At all. Maybe one or two really good ones. Ever. I always told myself that I wasn't good enough to be part of their group, or that they just fake-liked me. It was so sad. I ruined so many chances at true friendship because I closed myself off to them. I'm going to work on this (and I bet you do it, too) to not judge people or jump to conclusions without seeking their true friendship first. After all, if you trust someone from the get-go and never end up getting hurt, only good can come from that, right? Thank you so much for sharing your struggle with me. We are not alone & I"m thinking of you today!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-4447346457143197842013-12-10T09:42:34.105-07:002013-12-10T09:42:34.105-07:00Katie, you are so wonderful. You must do one thing...Katie, you are so wonderful. You must do one thing for me, never EVER apologize again for leaving me a long comment, or one that's about "you" when I write a post about "me!" Deal? :)<br /><br />Here's the thing. I write my heart out and tell my story not so that I can get "Oh, it will be OK!" or "You'll make it" or "Lift your head up," kinds of comments. I already know that stuff already, you know? I blog it out and leave my comments open so that I can learn more about YOU! These kinds of posts are in an effort to put out there something I struggle with, and to help reassure people that they are not alone in their struggles either. So the fact that you did tell me your story, THANK YOU. It is amazing to get to know more about you. It really is.<br /><br />Speaking of that, I never ever expected to hear you say some of the things you lie to yourself about. I think you are a beautiful, amazing, energetic, wonderful, talented, friendly person. You go out of your way to help bring others up (especially me!) every single day. I am so sad to hear that you are down on yourself... but want to know something? I do it, too. I know I have so many things going for me, but some days, I also tell myself that I'm not pretty enough, fast enough, fit enough, smart enough, take pretty enough pictures... you know the drill! We are killing ourselves... why do we do it? I also believe what your friend said. The Devil intends to find our weaknesses and exploit them as much as he can. He doesn't want us to be happy or loved or successful, and once he finds something he can tear us apart with, he will do all he can to destroy us. Your comment (and my post, I suppose) shows me that we are strong and fighting him each day. It's amazing what we can do with God on our side!<br /><br />I want you to know I appreciate you so much. Now, this is a terribly long comment back and YOU'RE WELCOME. No apologies here. I consider you a friend and appreciate every word you write. Thank you for being there for me. I'm here for you, too!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-12282997939215144272013-12-10T09:35:54.225-07:002013-12-10T09:35:54.225-07:00Thank you so much... He is so faithful, thanks for...Thank you so much... He is so faithful, thanks for your wonderful comment!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-27818307709790451732013-12-10T09:35:08.448-07:002013-12-10T09:35:08.448-07:00No no no, not too long or preachy at all. It's...No no no, not too long or preachy at all. It's perfect, Alesha. Thank you. You're so right, God's the only one who can change our hearts to get those negative feelings away. God's the ONLY one who can steer our husbands in the right direction. And He's the ONLY one who can help us through it if it does happen. God is so merciful and great. Thanks so much for sharing His love with me!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-42959180637396505052013-12-10T09:33:37.101-07:002013-12-10T09:33:37.101-07:00Agreed 100%. Thanks so much, Aspen! The support gr...Agreed 100%. Thanks so much, Aspen! The support group is where it's at.Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-515235152739823922013-12-10T09:33:11.806-07:002013-12-10T09:33:11.806-07:00I'm looking forward to it. Thanks so much, Col...I'm looking forward to it. Thanks so much, Colleen.Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-81180034961303470442013-12-10T09:32:52.519-07:002013-12-10T09:32:52.519-07:00You're awesome, Krysten. I feel like everytime...You're awesome, Krysten. I feel like everytime someone leaves be a blog comment, that's like a virtual hug. So I appreciate every single one I can get. I guess through this whole thing, the biggest thing I've realized is I'm not the only one who does this. We women need to rally together to combat these awful thoughts ;) Thinking of you today!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-12982241733142982502013-12-09T21:53:42.685-07:002013-12-09T21:53:42.685-07:00I hate that feeling. I hate how it makes me feel a...I hate that feeling. I hate how it makes me feel and I hate those moments where I know he has earned and deserves my trust but sometimes I just can't give it. It is so frustrating but one of my biggest insecurities is being left and being all alone.Brittany Wilsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-41381537302725283022013-12-09T16:39:31.925-07:002013-12-09T16:39:31.925-07:00That's OK, too! Sometimes I tend to put just a...That's OK, too! Sometimes I tend to put just a little too much out on the internet, instead of just reserving it for Daniel and myself. I think sometimes it's good and sometimes it's bad. At least you have a level head about it! :)Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-5868533548655737512013-12-09T16:38:13.691-07:002013-12-09T16:38:13.691-07:00Thank you so much, Amy. Maybe it's just what I...Thank you so much, Amy. Maybe it's just what I've seen, but women with the nicest & friendliest husbands tend to have these feelings often. It's almost as though we hold them with such high regard and worry that it might be the one place they would mess up... I'm so glad I'm not alone. Thanks for helping me (and letting me help you!) with keeping our thoughts positive!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-20623852458316019302013-12-09T16:37:14.099-07:002013-12-09T16:37:14.099-07:00Rachel, thank you so much. I never saw it that way...Rachel, thank you so much. I never saw it that way either until doing a lot of research about what the Bible says & honoring your husband. It's such a good perspective, and I try so hard to remember it!<br /><br />And the good news? I won't be leaving for training for a bit. I won't be able to post for a least 8-weeks of it, but I'll be back afterward... promise. I'll have lots of good stories!Annelise Rowehttp://www.auniesauce.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-40860152555973995202013-12-09T10:16:02.396-07:002013-12-09T10:16:02.396-07:00Thank you for opening up to us in such a raw way. ...Thank you for opening up to us in such a raw way. You are not alone. I am a worrier and oftentimes I create thoughts in my head about things that don't exist. Mine are mainly distrust in others - acquaintances, friends even... deciding that they don't like me. It actually makes me act differently and I end up pushing others away because of it. You're so not alone in this and I'm glad you didn't delete the post.Niki Caronhttp://www.glossyblonde.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-10728730052304563592013-12-09T03:08:36.024-07:002013-12-09T03:08:36.024-07:00The view of heels itself shows that they are safe...The view of heels itself shows that they are safe and secure and we hope it will keep us away from slip and fall <a href="http://slipandfallattorneyphiladelphia.net/" rel="nofollow">http://slipandfallattorneyphiladelphia.net/</a>davidjaggersnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-3351841342893975642013-12-08T07:39:59.901-07:002013-12-08T07:39:59.901-07:00Oh, Aunie. You are so great and brave to share you...Oh, Aunie. You are so great and brave to share your fears and struggles and I love you for that. I will be praying for you, sweet lady. The first line you wrote, this: "I am a liar and creator of evil thoughts. It's true. And the only person I hurt is myself" really stuck out to me. I am a liar, it is probably the sin I struggle with the most. I've always done it mainly to protect myself from other people and what they would think of me but all it has ever done and continues to do is just be me hurting myself. I lie all the time. I say that I'm not good enough. That this won't happen and that won't happen. That I am not good at anything. That no one will like me. That no one will love me. That I am not pretty. That I am a failure. This and that about me or that I've said is no good. Lies upon lies upon lies. I am embarrassed at things in my life and don't like who I am, don't like my personality and oh so many things and I just tell myself so many lies. It is extremely self-destructive. I rarely let people in, if ever. To be honest, my blog friends and followers know more about me than those in my rl do. It just seems like judgment, teasing and hurt are more likely and more painful in person, face to face, than from those in the online world. Believing and saying these horrible things about myself is something I really struggle with. I used to be way worse, oh if you only could see the Katie I was just a couple years ago!, but slowly I got a little bit better and even more so lately and it is all because of Jesus because I was so broken and am still quite broken, that I know God is the only one who can get me through some days and I am so grateful for his grace. But still, I am anxious, panicked, embarrassed, lonely and overwhelmed most of the time. Because of lies. One of my other blog friends, in an email exchange one time, told me that she believed the Devil was really messing with my security. Making me feel insecure about so many things that really were because of lies I was believing from the enemy. And I think that is probably true for you too. The Devil is going to work in those areas we struggle with the most so that he can try to break us and make us more vulnerable than before. He doesn't want us to be better and move forward and be secure. I think these times are those moments when we really have to be grateful to be women of faith because in these times when our mind is working against us, Faith is possibly the only thing that can pull us through these dark moments. I remember trying to do it on my own a few years ago and being this way without faith just left me totally empty. You can't go through life alone. Anyway! I didn't mean to tell you my whole entire story in this comment and this post is about you, but I wanted to let you know how much that line stuck out to me and how I can relate to evil lies. You are a super strong woman and I admire you for being able to be open and vulnerable with us. We are all here for you and want you to get through this. I will be praying for you, and honestly mean that. I pray that Jesus will quiet your soul and mind and that you won't believe the lies anymore. If you ever need anything, always an email away!Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-68777830297644687612013-12-07T18:31:34.004-07:002013-12-07T18:31:34.004-07:00Praying for you! It is so brave for you to post th...Praying for you! It is so brave for you to post this! God will continue to protect you throughout all the hardships in life. Keep strong in your faith and God will see you through!Sincerely, Knoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-26024196494546096212013-12-07T16:41:16.642-07:002013-12-07T16:41:16.642-07:00I have struggled with this too...and not everyone ...I have struggled with this too...and not everyone understands. But I have found that more women understand than I thought would. The biggest things that have helped me is remembering that Satan is the Father of lies and that I can pray for help against those lies. Also, that because I am married to a man that loves Jesus, I need to trust him, but more so, I need to trust God with him. And trust that even if my worst fears did come true (which they probably won't) then God will be enough to carry me through. Finally, even if my husband's heart were to be headed a wrong direction, only God can change hearts, so the best thing I can do is pray and trust Him. I didn't mean to make this so long or sound preachy. Just wanted to share what God is slowly teaching me through this. <3 Praying for you, sister!<br />Alesha <3Alesha Sinkshttp://aleshablessed.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8047315763557909947.post-41773027324317121102013-12-07T15:29:56.420-07:002013-12-07T15:29:56.420-07:00We all have "flaws" and sins that we str...We all have "flaws" and sins that we struggle with- for me it is jealousy. Just know that you are not the only one going through these things and it is always better to get it out there and to have a support group than to try to deal with it yourself. <3 <br /><br /><a href="http://makeoverwithaspen.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Makeover With Aspen</a>Aspen Ballardnoreply@blogger.com