A couple weeks ago, one of my readers shared a beautiful quote with me that her dad used to tell her when she was growing up:
"Sometimes we feel inadequate because we compare everyone else's highlight reel with our behind-the-scenes."
It really made me think, and to be honest, has really helped me out since she shared it with me. I'm not the only one who compares myself to others, am I? I have a little story to go along with this, and I'm hoping you see it as me being candid & opening up—not as me fishing for compliments. This has been on my heart and I feel like it's something I need to share and get off my chest.
I was at the gym the other day and saw a lady with the most perfect body. I mean, it was ideal. But that was just one little aspect that I saw of her—I have no idea what her background is, if she has a super-strict diet, how much time she spends in the gym, or if she's a happy person (though she did give me a super-big & friendly smile). Daniel saw me get a little frustrated as I looked at myself in the mirror. If I'm being honest—while I have things I'm still working on things and I've made so much improvement, I did find myself having negative thoughts about my own body. I'm sorry to admit that, but it happened. He gave me a reassuring hug and reminded me of how hard I've been working, and that just because I'm seeing something at face value doesn't mean that it's "perfect" or that I need to be envious of that. He was absolutely right.
So, why do I do that? Why are we so quick to want what others have? Through a lot of prayer, I've been asking for grace and uplifting thoughts when thinking about myself—because I've always been one to struggle with self esteem—though I don't like to admit it. I've also prayed for peace over things I can't control, and the strength to change the things I can.
When looking at my reflection, sure, I may not be perfect, but I have so much going for me. If you're feeling down or inadequate or just having a "why me" day—maybe try making a little list of all the things you appreciate about yourself. I think you'll find that there is so much beauty in your behind-the-scenes that you'll forget about the highlight reels of everyone else.
There is beauty behind-the-scenes. Behind my scenes, behind your scenes, and behind everyone's scenes—there is beauty to be found. I would love to hear—what do you love about yourself?